It's not a crime, agreed, at the end of the day, it's you over there- dealing with your own life, and I have no idea from outside your post-anything about you. My opinion is based on what you described here, based on my knowledge of relationships, you titled the post falling in love, you described falling in love with someone outside your marriage. I guess I don't have anything to add to this, I will leave it to someone else to argue with you over a dynamic you change the terms for, and you control..but, why did you come here with this story? Are you doing a pitch for your lifestyle? Or do you honestly want feedback?