I struggled through the holidays too cause I was alone most of the time. I felt a lot of disappointment toward my family and then I started remembering what my old T had suggested, which is what is being talked about. She recommended I lower my expectations of other people. It lowers your risk of feeling hurt when things don't go your way. I just had to tell myself today to lower my expectations. It's just self talk. You do it enough and things bother you less.