Ann bog had advised to lower expectations, not standards. There's a difference. I think we can maintain high standards in knowing that not all people can meet them. Which is what I think I need to do. I am idealistic in some ways, and I think that harms me, especially when it comes to dealing with other people.

So sorry about your hit and run. That happened to me last year, and it sucks because then you have to pay the deductible to get it fixed.