Thanks Beth. I think we can give each other perspective and empathy.

To All who are following;
Over the holidays my daughter's ex husband contacted us to wish us a Merry Christmas. He was less than an ideal father or husband. He was an addict during the time his children were growing up. My husband and I stepped in to fill that gap. He has expressed appreciation for that but there are trust issues on our part.

Long story short I called him today and he is sober for a year or so and is being a father to his youngest, N is 20 next month and A is 22. I have not seen them or heard from them in a year as my daughter threatened them. They cannot have contact. It hurt me so much as we raised them more or less. But more than myself I was concerned that they would become depressed living with their mother, my daughter. They were not working last I heard and I have been very concerned.

Their father, R, has been seeing them and has gotten them cars and jobs. R is coming over Monday to talk.

I was so relieved to know they are ok. It was physical, the relief I felt. The weight of this is so heavy. I will be ok if they choose not to take a chance on seeing me . I saw N secretly for awhile and gave him a phone that he kept from her. She pulled up one day at a place we met and he was told if he sees me she will not allow him to stay at her house. I don't think they trust their father enough to risk that yet.

I know, she is awful. She was different before alcohol and drugs and before she got involved with the man she is living with. But now she is nothing like the daughter I knew.

The good news is I may have someone to keep me informed and that is more than I've had. I'm grateful. I've been praying and this is an answer to prayer.

Thanks for reading.