I know many won't agree with me, but I have no hang-ups about my guy watching porn, I don't know why but I don't. I watch porn. I can't explain it, but sexual fantasies are healthy, and some people enjoy indulging in fantasies on their own or together as a couple. Monogamy, in my opinion, is only unnatural or forced when each person in the couple makes the other person deny the thing that comes to them most naturally, their fantasies. I feel like telling my significant other to only think of me in his mind is crossing a line I shouldn't cross.

I could be dead wrong here, but for me, my fantasies and some of the things that turn me on don't revolve around my partner - and I think that's healthy. I am 100% present with him the bedroom and when he is lying next to me - but sometimes in my alone time? I may dabble in some erotica and porn.

Maybe I'm just different?