Please be careful within yourself here, KLL85. It's not either/or and you did not cause the issue because you weren't making progress. Resistance is not usually something we can consciously control and the T's overreaction (IMO) was maybe the best he could do, due to his own issues. Perhaps he felt responsible for moving you past the resistance and did not know how. Or something like that. And then projected that responsibility onto you, when you could consciously do no more than you were doing already?

And, yeah, not being liked is very painful to think about. That's something that could be useful to explore somehow. But from what you have written here there doesn't seem to be much evidence of that? Just that he got frustrated-- which I think is on him and how he handled his frustration, not about you.

My last therapist could not, for her own issues I believe, own her part in the impasse and SHE terminated me. But there are other people who have posted in this forum and in difficult situations, like this has been for you, and their therapists HAVE been able to own that they hurt their client and hence, it has sounded like, it can help the client move past both the hurt the therapist caused AND the original unhealed trauma.

I think, based on a lot of thinking about this in my own situation, that writing and communicating about how badly you feel feel may help. And not focusing on the complaint part, as Lonelyinmyheart suggested. It's very hard to tease those apart, I know from experience. But ultimately, I have no control over my ex-T and what she does. I only have my own responses, which have been pain. So -- what am I going to do with that? Still very much in the early stages, still can barely stand to feel it. That's where support groups have really been helpful, though.