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Originally Posted by BethRags
During my most recent session I was crying about a beloved cat I had who died. My T listened and was compassionate. I told her that part of the reason (a big part) I fear that my pets will become ill is because I don't have the money to care for them the way I might need to. It terrifies me. My T commented that she has to take her cat in soon for a teeth cleaning. I just looked at her...like, did you not hear me? That I do not have enough money to do routine pet care? And you're telling me that what I was pouring out reminded you that you need to pay for routine pet care?
YES. I felt envious, I felt annoyed, I felt that it's all unfair.
In my opinion, one problem with psychotherapy is that the client is often not on the social scale the therapist is on. It creates a very weird imbalance. To a degree, I think many Ts like the feeling of being "superior" - even though they might deny it.
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I'm sorry you lost your cat. Pets can be the best of companions.
How insensitive of the T to mention about her cat's teeth cleaning in the context of what you were talking about.
I agree about the difference in social scale between client and therapist and the subsequent imbalance. There is a power imbalance in the relationship as it is because of it being one sided and this just makes it even worse.
I often worry that my T only does the job because it pays well and makes her feel superior. She certainly doesn't seem to enjoy it as her demeanor suggests to me that she can't even be bothered to do my sessions. I would say maybe she dislikes me as a client but she's been this way from day one.