I disagree and believe that we can control our thoughts, including sexual fantasies. We may feel a natural sexual attraction to someone we meet, but I think we can curb sexual thoughts and fantasies about them and not indulge in them. That's what I'm talking about, is indulgence. Sure, there are attractive people everywhere.... I see attractive men and my husband sees attractive women. Would you want to think your husband is indulging in sexual fantasies about other women? I don't think so. I think you would prefer that he not.