Curbing his thoughts - That would be changing who he is as a person. That is not possible. He is who he is. He is married to you, but he is not your partner. He does not sound like he is your friend.

If you did not find who he was as a person acceptable to you, why did you marry him? I really think it is no use arguing about who is right or wrong now. You can "have" all the standards you want. You are the one not following them. You have to do the difficult thing here. Not whine that you expect it of others.

Im still mad at him for not spending thanksgiving with your family. He knows hes a scoundrel. He cant even face them.