My impression from your thread title is that you struggle with trust and you are just trying to find ways to calm that challenge down. It takes time to build trust in any relationship and it can be harder when a person has experienced being hurt in the past. When we experience a hurt from other relationships, it can make us extra sensitive when trying to be in a relationship without having a deep alarm go off that was created from an experience we had with someone else.

I think you have been trying to point out things with your husband that can trigger you and make you uncomfortable. You really just want to be reassured so you can work on building your person trust.