@BethRags
Your situation has some similarities to mine. I want to ponder more and likely have lots to say.

Firstly, I think you are right about the therapist encouraging the no contact thing. To me, it’s an incredibly hurtful thing to do in a case like yours or mine. Boundaries are one thing. No contact is completely another. It does seem like an extreme action to take on a good relationship. I’m baffled.

Second, you are doing great to be as strong as you are being. Keep venting. Thanks for starting this group!