I had a boyfriend that sounds a little like yours but I was leery of him from the start. We'd be washing his car at my parents house and he'd wash behind me, all the places I'd washed. I flew out to California to visit him and he was living at home (parents and 2 other brothers) and I didn't like how he treated his mother, LOL. But what clinched the deal was we went to the State Fair and he was playing a video game (at a State Fair with all its wonders and he's in a tent playing video games?) and I happened to be standing in a spot that blocked a ray of sun and when I got bored (he was playing the game for the 3rd or 4th time, etc.) and moved he literally started whining at me to move back so he could keep playing! That and cleaning rifles and taking me out into the hills (I thought we were going to a range and had totally inappropriate shoes on for mountain climbing :-) and making me shoot after he was finished so the target would be "clean" for him so he could see how well he'd done.

This was back in the early 1970's so there wasn't any OCD, etc. talk/knowledge back then so I just wrote it off as being selfish. He married a woman but kept calling me when she was out (I was very glad I lived across country from him) and mostly complained about her because she did her own thing (she ice skated I think it was) and didn't do things according to his program. He'd want some toy (vehicle, boat, I forget what all) and she wouldn't help save for it, wouldn't give "her" money toward it, etc. When they had a baby, he was still calling me and still complaining, often his wife was out doing her once a week thing and he was having to babysit. LOL.

I would look at how badly his behaviors bug you and whether you want to continue putting up with them because I don't think they'll change much?