Is attachment the same as connection? I dont think so. Attachment is a desire. Where connection is more like a bond. I think of connection being two way street. Both have to give and receive. Openingly, and honestly. Attachment is a desire, want or need, is how i think of it. Look into attachment theory. Then look at the things that have to happen for a connection. Two things that get in the way of making a connection is Shame, and Vulnerability. Have to deal with those inorder to move into connection.

I have been thinking about these things in regards to my own T. I thought i had a connection with her. Its hard when it is one sided. I often mind myself angry at her for not responding to emails, not responding to texts, not having more than 50 min for me, it goes against building a connection. I've hit a wall it often feels like. Attachment, i desire it with her. But also makes me feel uncomfortable. She still cant give me everything i want. And never will be able too. I am DID. So for me connection starts with parts of myself. Once i can connect with them, i can feel better about attachment and or connection to another.

Also if you dont have DID, a connection still needs to happen with those aspects of self you have resistance to.

Just some thoughts