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Old Jan 08, 2020, 12:17 PM
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@Lavieilamant I am so sorry for your pain, your rib, and your experience with this woman. What a nightmare! Your current feelings and anger at her are totally understandable. You may feel angry for a long time.... take the time you need to in order to take care of YOU.. what I found in my own experience with abusive and toxic relationships is that underneath it all, I was mainly angry with myself for allowing the abuse to occur in the first place, and for not seeing or ignoring the initial red flags.

So... once you can get around to it, what you can do is learn and GROW from this experience. What did it teach you? Where are your boundaries? Were your boundaries and limits tested & violated early on, and did you allow it to happen? Did you give of yourself too much? Should you not give so much so soon the next go around? What red flags did you dismiss early on? Next go around, pay attn to the red flags and heed them as strong warnings of what is to come.....

Most of all, take care of you..... allow yourself time to be angry, but to enjoy your time now away and out of that most toxic relationship. Find yourself again.. give yourself some self love and don't be too hard on yourself. We all make mistakes and many of us have found ourselves in similar toxic relationships. Definitely do not beat yourself up.. forgive yourself and give yourself a healthy dose of compassion.... we all live and learn. This is a learning opportunity for you. Think of it that way.

Sending love, light and healing hugs your way!
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