Lily
I think both are true. How can I tell my friends whose children seem perfect!

Think about it! In this culture and maybe all cultures parents are blamed for their children's character flaws. The opposite is spoken about often.
" what a great man you raised!" I see the sports celebrities talk about their mothers raising them alone and of their respect for their mothers. It breaks me.

My daughter and son married young and were divorced young. They had my husband and I. They had exes who paid child support and co parented!

That is a million miles from what I did! How dare they criticize me! I bounce from grief to rage daily. This can't be good for my health. I need to let go.

I do that too. I let go and then I have these imaginary conversation s with them.

How do you all feel about writing a letter?