The thing that is important to keep in mind is that you actually "want" to learn and grow as a person. It's not your fault that you absorbed some of your father's bad patterns of thinking. Yet, if you can slowly discern what these patterns are, then you on the road to learning how to catch them and say to yourself "no, I am not going to carry that stinking thinking of my father's".

I wanted to post some links for you but every time I try to put a link I can't get my post to happen. There is something wrong that has to be looked into.