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Originally Posted by TunedOut
We both agree on this. (Children need love and understanding.) They also need boundaries which has never been my strength but I am working on it.
People have also manipulated me but I am learning to recognize better when it is happening and am slowly learning to say "no", withdraw when people are so upset they are lashing out, and to not keep giving to people who don't give back.
My pain still comes and goes occassionally.  I think we can continue to make progress towards focussing on bringing our lives joy. The more we do that and the more we stop focussing on those that have caused us pain--the better life can be. |
In my case, I maintained boundaries. The fallout was about boundaries. We held firm and he abandoned us over it. I feel we did the right thing and were honestly being good parents by sticking to our principles. Maybe in time our relationship will repair and a valuable lesson will be learned. Honor thy father and mother.
It’s like when you stand up to any bully. They’re not going to like it. You walk away with your self esteem. They are fuming mad.