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A person with an adequate level of self esteem doesn't need to take slights, get jealous, try to keep control or get paranoid in their relationships. This is because they are not looking for the relationship to complete them; they are already a complete individual. If a person with adequate self esteem comes home and finds their partner in a low mood, they don't automatically thing. "It's me!". They can cope with that jag of loneliness coming from their partner's mood problem.

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This is SO EXACTLY what the article I posted is trying to achieve! Somehow, somewhere we need to find at least one positive thing about ourselves and build on that. That does not preclude the need to be encouraged and supported in our efforts. Yet, it is the individual that has to make their minds up that no matter what anyone else has said, there IS some good in us. We have to start somewhere and build on that one good. We need to convince ourselves that no matter how small that one positive is, it's worth building on. Of course, we can also choose to leave it as it is.

Thanks, Myzden!