Has anyone experienced meeting someone and it seems like a lot of people like the person, but due to their actions and the way they talk to others and even about others, you get the feeling they are not as nice as they are putting on? I know in some cases, if you just simply dislike the person and especially if they dislike you, this can affect your view of them. In some cases, they may be fine and it is just your own perception, but not all the time.

I know sometimes it is just your own perception of them. But there are other times where, whether they like you or not, you get this heavy gut feeling that they are secretly very mean and others don’t seem to notice. Usually I feel this way towards someone if I notice they talk to another person and may even treat them like they are best friends to their face, but then rip them apart behind their back, especially if they are in a bad mood or someone angers them, even in a minor way. It can be frustrating to be the only one who appears to notice.

Has anyone else felt this way about someone? I know one if the people I feel this way towards is one of my coworkers. She is very talkative and nice to people’s faces, and at first glance, it may look like they are best friends. But behind their backs, I’ve heard her say some rude and even unprofessional things about the same person that indicate that she really doesn’t like them. She has done this to a lot of people. A lot of other coworkers seem to like her and be blind towards her actions.

She doesn’t like me for some reason, but I’ve felt this way towards other people that did like me so I know it is not just my perception of her. Does it annoy you when others seem to be blind to the behavior? It’s happened in other cases I notice someone acting in a way that makes me think they are secretly very mean but they are putting on an act and others appear oblivious to it. How do you deal with being the only one that seems to notice someone acting like this while others appear oblivious? Just wondered.