Hi mote.of.soul, certainly. I'm a bit tired so pardon anything I may accidentally leave out.

Yes I do like her. She does have redeeming qualities. She is a good person. Into wellness, fairness, she's intelligent. She is nice to me. And she has even been helpful and there at times for me.

Yeah I'm not entirely sure what my deal is but closest i can come is a combo of things including social anxiety. Yes. Yes I do think it may be that I'm a bit inflexible about people sometimes? Maybe intolerant. Not on purpose. But yes its good to recognize so I can relax and find a way to be more accepting of others.

Well, at first I thought maybe I didn't want to be friends with her. But I also think...its fluid. It changes. I haven't seen her face to face since septemberish.

Its not just about her. Its about what my mind does with things. And I experience it a lot especially lately. I really like that you said to focus on what I DO like about her, and really about anyone or any situation I feel negative about.

It may be a matter of communicating, self work, acceptance, and yes, distancing myself at certain times.