I'd say most clients, when they first start therapy, don't really have a clue how therapy should go. I've only ever had one therapist, but I've read about it and have been on the forums here so I have a bit of an idea when something's not right. But not everyone has the interest to read about it or join forums. That's why it's the therapist's responsibility to maintain an ethical standard. It's all on them and not on us at all. I understand that in the UK all therapists have supervision, but it doesn't sound like supervision was even helping keep this therapist on track. Someone else suggested you contact Ask Kathleen. I think that if you talked over what this therapist was doing with a knowledgeable professional, it might help you believe more readily that this wasn't your fault.