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Originally Posted by bpcyclist
The more difficulty a person has managing their own shame, the more likely they are to lie, in my experience. shame-avoidance becomes a huge priority, in order to prevent the pain that accompanies it from fluporishing.
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Good post, I think this is accurate. Many experience toxic shame from long term chronic abuse (or possibly in some cases ''personality issues'') and some lie as a means of (or attempt to) shame-avoidance. It obviously isn't a healthy ''coping'' mechanism. In many cases it causes other people pain or disappointment... as do other unhealthy ''coping'' techniques such as manipulation and control of others.. or pathological ignoring games and cliques even.... it boosts their own fragile egos.
Interesting question OE, I have recently been interacting (or non interacting) with a few people (not on pc) who I have now discovered are extreme and probably chronic liars. It is not a pleasant experience as they also appear to lack much (or any) empathy for others. They are also, apparently, very arrogant. Not a ''pleasant'' combination of traits (to a ''forced people pleaser''.. forced by abusive parental units).
Oh my.. did I really say all that

I think I might have to delete it

I have always had an adequate ability with words. But not ''adequate confidence'' that I would not be harshly punished for using them

(no dig at anyone on pc or any online person)