I was just wondering, why do some people continuously nag at other people and why do they feel the need to pick at other people. I have noticed I do this. I want to stop, but I never do. I don't even know why I do this. I couldn't seem to find anything on the Internet about the psychology behind nagging so I decided to hit the forums. I have noticed this other woman in my family does the same thing. She was having an argument with her husband. Well, not really an argument because he wasn't arguing back. She was just complaining and jumping onto him because of something that wasn't even his fault. So he offered to fix it. He didn't even reluctantly offer. He was being very agreeable and seemed to only want to make her feel better. Yet, she still wasn't satisfied. Not only did she refuse to take the offer, but she continued to nag at him. I know sometimes people get angry and become stubborn and refuse to accept an apology or an offer for help, but what was so crazy about this is it wasn't even his fault and even after he was going to fix it for her she didn't just refuse his help. She picked and nagged at him even after this as she had before and nagged for a long time afterwards. Maybe an hour or more. I don't even know why she refuses to let him help her, either. I mean it couldn't be to punish him for something he's done as he's done nothing. I don't think (judging from what I know about her) that it's because she thinks it'll make her look weak either. It was almost like she just wanted to be mad or wanted something to complain about. I doubt that's true though. It's just how it might look to outsiders. Anyways, she does this all the time. I do the same thing. I pick and nag at people for no reason or no good reason. Even after I see I am wrong or even after they apologize or remedy the situation, I still nag. I don't think I want to be mad and I don't think I want a reason to complain, so why do I do it? Oh, also now that I think about it, I have this distant cousin (but not that distant) who apparently did the same thing. People tell me she'd argue everyone over everything. It sounds almost like she just enjoyed arguing with people. She once argued a woman over what her (the other woman's) own child's name was. I don't expect anyone to analyze my psyche or diagnose me with anything or even give me a reason for why I do this. I just want to know what is the psychologist's view of nagging? Are their any explainations for it in the psychology books? What are they? Thanks.