razz you simply need to decide what his behaviour was.. in your own mind.

you dont owe him anything really... if you feel the complaint is warranted, then you don't owe him an explanation. If you dont feel it's warranted, then you would need to intercept it.

to complain or not has to be based on your feelings... can you ask this lady at the ethics board as to whther they have someone who can help you decide? Is there a local womens center where you can have a quick chat with one of the workers about it? They know the system and what is apropriate. What about talking to your GP? Talk to someone who can advise you

i just hope you dont choose to see him simply because of the wait times... i found the posts about the things he said too triggering for me, but what i did see sounded horrid... for a first appt and all.

if you see him, will you tell him how bad it was for you?

im a little worried about you... think bigger picture razz, not simply today. i feel scared thinking of you going through that again.

be safe