I think it's important to understand what you loved about it Werewoman. Given the life challenges you had faced, often that leaves someone with challenges of "powerlessness" which I myself can relate to. Often it's a genuine struggle to figure out how to regain your own personal sense of power. It's really not about the corset, its more about what is in you that got hurt and working on identifying that and healing it. I know that isn't easy either, been working so hard on that myself. Often the true power comes from not having total control over others, but learning how to compromise and gain control over yourself. I do not want to make light of this challenge either, I have most definitely been battling with this myself. Your relevance as a human being doesn't need to come from domination. Often that is what abusers wanted and how you got hurt. Sometimes a person can try to fix that by dominating others themselves. Well, that's not the true fix even though it can seem that way. Often true strength comes from learning to release. Not to a Domme but to whatever holds you hostage that hurt you in some way. I know that can be quite the challenge, as I mentioned, it' what I have been trying so hard to do myself.