You write your mother has dementia. Does she have a diagnosis? I ask this because often diagnosis can help with access to support agencies as well as medical support.

You are right to be concerned about her future but there are plans that can be put into place which will make things easier, especially as dementia progresses. For instance care and support does not have to mean giving up her independence and going residential home, it could mean support coming in to help with tasks, for a time at least.

I realise it must be frustrating for you but please don't take this as criticism when I say keeping calm and not losing patience is important. Always ask yourself if the thing you are stressing about is vitally important, often it isn't, taking a step back and breathing deeply can help as can picking your battles if you know what I mean.