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Originally Posted by Aviza
Thanks. My ex boyfriend is begging for another chance, I talked to him tonight. Still the same guy but works a better job. I don't really want to be with him though there's aspects of being with him I miss.
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Please don't be offended by what I'm going to suggest, but do you feel you NEED someone in your life to be happy? Do you feel you have to have a boyfriend or husband right now to make youf life complete?
You rushed into this relationship and declared love and discussed marriage very quickly.
You seem needy and desperate for a male to fulfill you, including returning to an ex who recently was harassing and bothering you on POF. Please don't return to the ex out of loneliness and neediness.
I agree with the other posters. Perhaps being alone for a while would really benefit you.
When we enter into relationships from a needy standpoint, they turn out to not be based on a healthy foundation. Meaning, we're looking to another person to fulfill and complete us for our happiness. Then it becomes a relationship based on NEED and DEPENDENCY. We cannot rely on another for our happiness.
When we enter into a relationship being independently happy on our own, it's a much healthier relationship dynamic.
Perhaps it's time to work on being happy by yourself? Work on your hobbies, goals and interests, as another poster suggested?
Another thing about being single and alone: when we have a life of our own, we're a much more interesting partner for someone. Wouldn't you prefer that? As opposed to the opposite?