The living arrangements you're engaged in now are temporary, I think there are just as many quiet places to live in Arizona as there are in Seattle. It sounds like there must be more going on than what he's expressed. I haven't read the background on the issues you were facing in Seattle, so I'm not sure what all the problems were there, but clearly they're intolerable to you. It seems like he may need some coping skills, but then he'd have to be wanting to do that on his own. It may be an irreconcilable problem if he's not willing to try and adapt and you're not willing to go back to Seattle. Sorry. Life requires patience and long suffering quite often, marriage intensifies the need for those skills along with a willingness to utilize them.