If she has kids and they aren’t adults yet, she needs to be mindful committing to strangers. So it’s wise of her not to jump into anything that early.

I think this relationship started too fast, hot and heavy and now has no where to go but downhill. I liked my husband very much when we dated (second marriage for both) but no way no how I’d be sleeping with him or talking marriage or what not after 2.5 months.

We did get engaged kind of fast but only when it was obvious we match very well, have same life style and values, are done with baggage and our kids are long grown up, still it was not THAT fast.

You can date her and take it slow if she is up to it or move on but make sure you start slow with new people if you decide to leave