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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
Hey @thought_pool:
Do you mean forgive him and stay with him or are you talking about forgiveness post-break up?
So I understand this right: Are you saying he cheated on you and you stayed with him? What reasons did he give for the cheating and how do you know its still not going on?
I know I may not have the right to an opinion on this because I have never been cheated on but what brought about his change? Was it because he got caught? (did you catch him or did he tell you?) Did he break things off with the other person?
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He cheated on me once 3 years ago, a drunken one night stand and confessed in July 2019. I stayed.
He tells me how unhappy he was in life and how he never considered that he might've been the problem and blamed everyone else.
He struggled with alcohol abuse, was surrounded by terrible company and worked in the service industry as a bartender, constantly surrounded by these things.
He cheated with a coworker, who had her sights set on him since he first started working there. I warned him about her and expressed my concerns many times, still he pressed there was nothing to worry about.
He told me he never had feelings for her, that it was solely a one night stand and a huge mistake. He stopped talking to her completely and left that bar a few months later.
This all unfolded when I found texts to a new coworker at a new bar. He was flirting with her and was of course, drunk again. He didn't remember the texts.
I was raging at him and he broke down crying and confessed about the first girl. So I guess it was a bit of both.
He's cut ties with any girl that's made me feel uncomfortable (and please don't get me wrong, I'm not unreasonable. These girls he's cut off are any of the ones that have flirted with him and have expressed interest.)
He wasn't able to figure this all out about himself without counseling. Since he's been, he's a completely changed person.