i dont think you should expect your husband to put your own needs over his own. altruistic relationships work the best and you expecting him to put his needs after yours is not altruistic. its the opposite.

and a lot of times, helpful comments are not what they want to hear. you can still be supportive and tell someone something they don't want to hear. support is helping them see all sides of the argument, not just spewing them things they want to hear.