Controlling people especially in long term relationships are self-centered, they don't care about the feeling or the opinion of the other controlled part, it looks like, do it, don't do this, no,no....it makes u feel like your role and ur right of expressing yourself, ur skills ur language even ur voice are all confiscated or they all became pointless, like your weight in the space! No gravity!
U live independent life if you're in constant close proximity to them. Controlling behavior limits your skills, enchaining ur feet,...
Controlling and love are two separated ways, controlling a person, means dominating him\her denying him\her from rights and frombeing him\herself.
Controlling includes constant criticism, automatically this would reduce your self confidence.
I'm glad that got closer to ur family.