Hi there,

It could also be the daughters way of figuring out the power dynamics going forward. If you are going to give in to all her requests and do everything she wants (at the detriment of your finances) that little girl will learn how to manipulate you. Even if you are not her biological mother, you are still (to some extent) a mother figure to her. So it’s important you establish your rightful place in your bfs life by not accepting bad behaviour from her. Call it out in a non-aggressive non-judgemental manner. Let her see how her behaviour is making you feel and how you do not deserve to feel sidelined in this trio. You love her and you love her father and you would never try to take him away. I don’t suggest you let the little girl dictate the rules of engagement between you because it will leave you playing a victim to the many games children play. You deserve her respect. Make that known, be firm but with love. It would be great if your bf is also involved in this discussion so that she can see that she cannot divide the two of you. It is the 3 musketeers and everyone deserves to be seen and loved in this trio.

All the best! Blessings.