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I tend to err on the side of kids in a situation like this. Think about it for a minute: Divorce is horrible for kids so she's been through that. She seems to have adjusted to you in the past but now her mom is going to get married. When parents divorce one of the major issues that happens with kids is their feeling of lack of stability. They fear being abandoned in the process, are confused by having to live with only one parent and even more confused when their parents love someone else. Parents make up the entire world for their kids. She is probably afraid that her mom will love her less or have less time, that her mom's BF doesnt like her, or that her dad will leave her, forget about her or make you his only priority. And she doesnt know how to vocalize these fears. It doesnt matter if those things would never happen or that the partners in each relationship are good and stable. To a child these things are very real fears. I know you say it upsets you but try to look at things from her perspective and not take it personally.
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