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Originally Posted by SarahSweden
I do think itīs manipulative when consciously using using methods to create some or other reaction in another person. If there was no aim for their actions, like avoiding to smile, then Iīm pretty sure they hadnīt acted that way.
The transference is fostered that way, to create a reaction and then use that reaction in different ways, some call it treatment, I call it manipulation. There are strategies behind their actions, theyīre no different to most other people. Itīs not like they greet their friends by staring at them when they meet or they let them stand in the hallway until the clock strikes a certain time until they let them in.
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I would agree with this. It's unnatural and, for many people, not at all a constructive form of "treatment". But, just like in everyday life, I also think that many Ts are not even aware that they are manipulating. Certain things have been nailed into their minds during training and sometimes they follow/repeat them blindly, completely disregarding diversity and that it is not going to work with everyone. Well, too bad for them because they are losing business due to it, in a good case. In a worse scenario, they upset clients who are already pretty rattled to start with.
I don't think all psychodynamic Ts are that rigid though, it's probably more a characteristic of some old-fashioned psychoanalytics. I've only tried one who claims to be a "modern psychoanalyst" and even that was mostly a useless, manipulative endeavor. It was also a particularly unhealthy T though, so probably that made the experience much worse. But if you are repeatedly having the same kind of unsatisfying/annoying experience with different providers, I think it is fair to conclude that a method may not be a good match for you.