Ooooohhhhhh WOW. I agree with all of the above! This is not an emotionally stable or healthy relationship. It does seem very abusive, given what you described. She is not well. I don't know what kind of disorder she has and I cannot diagnose, but it seems like a personality disorder.... we're not equipped on here to diagnose since we're not doctors, and I see this is your first post.

I agree that you should consider leaving. She is very volatile, and while you say she will not harm you, she has threatened and that is abuse. Her blowups are abusive as well. Please take care of YOU foremost.

Can you leave? Do you have children?