Ok...some clarification.

My last sesion with him - when he asked the weird stuff - was March 26th.

I was supposed to have an appointment with him on Monday the 31st. My husband was actually working that night anyway, so I just called to cancel. I just left a voicemail. I called on Sunday so technically 24 hours ahead.

I have not paid him anything yet. He was going to send me a bill for the copays. He does have my insurance info.

I never officially told him that I didn't want to see him again.

I did send him an email, last week, asking him why he got so detailed in some of the questions.

The complaint is not official yet. I have to sign a paper form to give the state the right to access my records. At this point...it's somewhere in the postal service. I called the lady at the state and she is going to put it on hold. The therapist has not been contacted about the complaint yet.

The only reason I said "okay" to the appointment when he called me today was that I just couldn't get the guts up to tell him what I really wanted to tell him....plus, I was at work, and had no privacy. I just said "okay, that's fine". I didn't say much. He asked me how I was doing and I hung up the phone.

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I'm having difficulty understanding...

Just because you FELT creeped out doesn't mean that he did anything OBJECTIVELY creepy.

According to the guidelines on assessment HE WOULD HAVE BEEN NEGLIGENT IF HE DIDN'T ASK YOU HIGHLY DETAILED QUESTIONS ABOUT YOUR SEXUAL BEHAVIOUR.

You didn't ask him (proactively) why he felt the need to ask those questions. You didn't say (proactively) that you felt immensely uncomfortable talking about sex (except for what you had volountarily disclosed already). You didn't tell HIM (proactively) that you were worried about whether his questions were appropriate or not. Instead you... Answered them? And then went to lay an official complaint about his misconduct even when a check online or in a textbook would show you whether his questions were inappropriate or not.


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Ok, for one thing, I came here and I did go online trying to ask questions as to whether or not this was inappropriate. Because I wasn't sure. He's licensed, why would he do that. I didn't just file the complaint the moment I left the office (although I did start balling uncontrollably so bad that I couldn't see while I was driving because of so many tears. And I binged on the way home. Does that mean anything to you?? Oh, and I'm afraid to go to my dentist now because he's in the same building as that therapist. but I guess I'm just making this all up....right...??)

I do understand why he asked some of the more general (but yes slightly specific) questions. To see how much danger I was in, who was in control, that kind of thing. I totally understand those questions, and yes I answered all that and I was honest. I don't get...why he just kept asking. Stuff that doesn't make sense why it would even matter for therapy purposes.

No I didn't answer all of his questions. I stared at the floor, tried to ignore them, maybe said "yes'" or "no" a few times, but yes at one point I said "I don't really want to tell you that" but I'm not sure he heard me.

Look, I have a really hard time speaking up for myself. Ok. Yet another "issue". Online, I can type like crazy. In person, I just can't talk. I'm quiet/shy/whatever the hell you want to call it. Social phobia maybe. I even get that way on the phone sometimes. One reason why it's been so hard to get appointments. I just freeze up when they get to the "and why are we seeing you" question. Sometimes I just hang up the phone. It's stupid. I hate it. But that's me.

Nevermind. Ok. I'm just stupid.