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Originally Posted by chihirochild
Had an excruciating talk with T today about the issue of wishing he would hold me when I’m upset. He was reasonably good about it. He also said that there will be absolutely no touch between us ever. I get it but at the same time I feel a little like a leper.
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I'm really sorry to read this. I know how you feel because I asked my former T for a hug many years ago and she said no in a really firm way. She said it's what she does with friends and family, not with me. I never felt so rejected and awful. I hope your T is at least open to discussing how you feel about not having touch. My former T became defensive after that even when I told her I knew she wouldn't hug/hold me, I just needed to be open about my feelings on the issue. I think it just stirred up so many feelings for her that she couldn't be that safe container for me to process those feelings. Your T owes you space to talk about how this has left you feeling. I hope he is secure enough in himself to do that.