Thanks guys! You are all so lovely and thoughtful!!! She is 10 turning 11 this year! I don’t want him to talk to her because I believe if she and I have an issue then we should be able to sort it out instead of involving him. She told me she pretended to like his ex gf and didn’t tell her dad how she felt. So one of my fears is that she will pretend to like me instead of telling me directly. I also don’t want to bother her dad or put extra pressure on him. He’s been so lovely and accommodating and really puts me above her at times so I am very appreciative. And definitely not, I did not remind her all the things I’ve done for her because I completely know where that’s going to lead and it’s not fair to make a child feel that way. I have also told her I’m not here to steal her dad from away and that she is his number 1. And I do inclusive things with them like playing uno to make sure the three of us are spending time together. You