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Along your line of thinking.....I NEVER would have thought to have done what the home care person did to my mom. But I was aware enough & wise enough to TRUST what I was seeing so that I caught what was happening within 5 days & did what I needed to do even with people telling me stuff like that doesn't happen to people like your mom.
I refused to be naive like my parents seemed to be from as young as I can remember. I do remember thinking that as young as in grade school. Seeing & understanding your environment can not be correlated to having to be mean to do it. Though I am sure what I had to do to protect my mom probably looked mean to people outside looking in. I never believed in being a people pleaser but doing what IS RIGHT for the situation even if it involved confrontation.
If we have no desire to not be naive then we can't fault ourself for not catching anything sooner than we were capable of. You always "should of" yourself into guilt that in reality is totally unnecessary & by doing that, you just increase your own pain & get stuck because of it. You need your T to help you stop this dysfunctional thinking.....but you also have to want to stop doing it first.
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Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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