How you put that eskie tends to actually be something toxic individuals have said to me when they do not want to accept responsibility for their manipulative behaviors. "You can choose to see things that way, it's your choice" when in reality the individual IS actually lying and manipulating. Another thing that can trigger me is "It is what it is" too. It's been said many times when someone wants to be dismissive or deflect and wants the other person to accept their powerlessness and relinquish control to the person who is actually on the take and planning to throw them under the bus. The other thing I noticed is "you just have to accept it" is often also used a way of manipulation.

I did not JUST ACCEPT and instead chose to press and TRY to get help. Yes, my lawyer did see it and so did the judge, actually, everyone saw it. What I noticed take place throughout everything I experienced was it was not just me that experienced discomfort when it came to my older sister. Often what I noticed is how other people distanced, did not want to touch it with a ten foot pole. I watched so many people do whatever they could to avoid my sister, hospital staff, even her own children and sadly even my own parents ended up going along with her in an attempt to avoid too. I learned my sister had a bad reputation in the realestate world, "it's her attitude others disliked where they tried to avoid her" I was told.