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What did you expect them to be able to do & why did you expect them to be able to do it?
Do you think they had a right to make their own choices about whether they could accomplish anything by getting involved? Distancing is sometimes the best choice rather than adding useless input to the already existing drama when they KNOW there is nothing they can do to change anything. That in its own way validates just how bad it was. It SEEMS LIKE they saw it & you just didn't acknowledge they saw it because they didn't do anything to help you.
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THIS is exactly what toxic individuals COUNT ON. This is what I had tried to tell people, even members here WHY just ignoring my sister and going to visit my parents anyway was actually something that would end up with MAJOR DRAMA. It was NOT just me that I had to consider either, it was both my parents as well as ANYONE involved with their care.
I did not know early on my sister was taking money from my mother. I did not see that until my sister had to present the accounting for the judge. My sister did NOT want me to know, or anyone for that matter. It showed just how far my sister would go in PROJECTING her own issues onto me. You were in a different position where YOU were in control of your mother and could catch on much quicker. That was not the position I had and my sister manipulated things to keep me in the dark always using her POA power as well as positioning herself to have control over their health/doctors and actual mental status. She literally used their declining mental health to her own advantage and she manipulated and gaslighted both my parents. She played everyone encouraging them to think I was the threat when in reality SHE was the one that was the problem.
Truth is, she literally BAITED me every time I tried to visit my parents WANTING me to react. Even when my parent's were dying.
When I started this thread I was wondering if this all began with shame and sometimes it is out of shame. I have come to realize, it's resentment and jealousy. I tend to not think "jealousy" in that I did not see myself as "all that" where someone could be jealous like this. I have learned that I don't NEED to see myself as SUPERIOR either, apparantly that is clearly what my sister needs to feel in herself SUPERIOR.