Hello Nolongersure: I see this is your first post here on PC. Welcome to Psych Central. Since you have 2 kids the Healthy Parenting forum, here on PC, may also be of interest to you. Here's a link:

https://psychcentralforums.com/healthy-parenting/

And then here are links to a selection of 10 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that may be of interest:

The Male Midlife Crisis

When Men Feel Trapped: A Practical Guide

7 Reasons to Seek Marriage Counseling

Couples and Marriage Counseling

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relat...uples-therapy/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-...uples-therapy/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/when-on...-other-doesnt/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/talking...divorce/?all=1

https://psychcentral.com/lib/kids-an...-tough-issues/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-a-...onship-crisis/

My best wishes to you & your family. I hope you find PC to be of benefit.