Also a recovering codependent and yes my track record of past lovers shows a lot of neediness and desperation from my side. Maybe we need to define what love should look like to us. Maybe it’s about mutual openness and willingness to see and acknowledge the other person.

In every relationship I think we shouldn’t stop loving who we are and taking care of ourselves. We cannot put the responsibility on our partner to give us the nurturing we should be doing ourselves. When we enter relationships with needs or expectations there’s a lot of room for disappointment. Right now I’m single because I came to realize there’s still a lot of work and selfish goals I want to pursue first. So that when I finally open up to someone, the love they give me is just a bonus from the love I already show myself daily.

All the best. Blessings.