Your situation sounds so difficult, danC1905.

I wish I knew what I would do if I was in your shoes but no answer comes to me. Hopefully others here will have helpful ideas.

You certainly deserve to be free of this terrible pressure you must feel from the situation. I was once in a similar situation and it was only time that seemed to change the situation.

Sincere apologies for not being able to be helpful to you. It is heartbreaking what you are dealing with ! ! ! -- Yaowen