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sarahsweets · Jan 21, 2020, 04:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Loveislight

I met my boyfriend over the summer. While he was on his meds. He was the sweetest and happiest person ever. We have been going out for 6 months now. He has been off his meds for 2 months now and every little thing gets him so angry that he destroys things around him and punching walls. He also screams at me and calls me out my name most times when he is having an episode. We are waiting to get his meds back but I’m just tired of the arguments, screaming and name calling. I don’t want to leave him while he is at his worst but I also don’t want the name calling and etc. he’s always breaking up with me during his episodes and once he is calm he apologizes and we’re back together. It is bad that I want a break while he is waiting on his meds?

I feel like you are in a dangerous place. You have been dating for 6 months and you are thrust into a position that even some married couples can not handle. I think from what you described, that his outbursts seem violent and that you could possibly be in danger. It doesnt matter if his anger is caused by a mental health issue or if he apologizes afterwards. It doesnt matter if he says he loves you or you dont think he will hurt you, by letting that happen you risk being hurt because he is clearly not in control when those incidents happen. Why do you feel it is your responsibility to handle this? He needs medication and management with a therapist- you are not that person. It is not your job to make him want to take care of his issues. He needs to be an active participant in his recovery.