Angel, a couple thoughts. I think we are more likely to believe the negative things we think about ourselves than the bad things others try and lay on us. We are our own worst enemies sometimes. I convince myself that I am unworthy, unhappy and unloved often enough to believe it much of the time.

Also, we can surprise ourselves and discover that we are not who we percieve ourselves to be. THis often occurs in some kind of crisis, good or bad, like when we survive the loss of an important person or when someone attacks you mentally or physically and you perservere. Or when some nice traumatic thing like a promotion or a heartfelt compliment or the adoration of someone you care about crumbles the walls of self-doubt.

It is almost certain that you are a better person than you would lead yourself to believe.

Topher