I'm there with you bigbear. But I don't have a diagnosis yet.

I do have frequent depression...ongoing since at least age 10 but it comes & goes. Binge eating since about age 17. Impulsiveness. Fear of abandonment and afraid of being alone so bad that I stay in a bad relationship just so I'm not alone.

Also some social anxiety or just shyness or whatever you want to call it. I don't talk!

Anyway...I'm also slightly confused at what BPD includes and what the difference is from BPD and some other diagnoses. But an online friend mentioned it to me 2 years ago, and the first time I read that book "I Hate You Don't Leave Me"....I just knew. It was like reading an auto-biography of myself.

You're not alone.