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Originally Posted by lowselfesteem92
I have brought it up with him but am reluctant to get him involved as he has some bigger issues of his own right now and don’t really want to be a burden. Also, I did bring it up with him and he did advise just to be myself. When it comes to his daughter, I think we both agreed that if her and I had an issue, we would resolve it the two of us and not involve him. But if I feel like it becomes necessary do include him, I definitely will! Thank you for your support
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I think you might want to focus on your relationship with him. Let the daughter be. She is young, vulnerable and needs to know her feelings are respected and acknowledged. It isn't a matter of right or wrong. You are asking too much of her. Her feelings are as valid as your own but you are an adult and hopefully able to be supportive rather than pushing the issue. Sorry, I just really feel for kids who are pulled into problems an adult is experiencing. She hasn't done anything wrong from what you say. And I am sure she could, if pressed, come up with complaints about your behavior. (eg: she may feel you are trying to "buy" her respect/liking rather than accepting her and being an available, trusted adult, trying to turn her dad against her etc---it doesn't mean you are doing these things but she could easily at her age interpret your behavior that way "I've been nice so you Have to Like me"----kids at this age are extremely sensitive to non verbal communications...)----