You say he has no redeeming qualities and nothing to offer you. So you just like a challenge to do what with a man who isn’t that into you and does nothing for you. What are you trying to do and get him to be? You are trying to turn garbage into gold. That’s more than just a challenge. That’s a fruitless waste of time.

Have you had a pattern with these kinds of relationships? Have you ever had a healthy one? What is the relationship like with your son’s father?

You have an intense addiction with this issue. Do you see a therapist? It’s really too complicated for us to really be able to help you much on here.

I would also want to put my son first and protect him from seeing a distraught mother in toxic relationships. I’m not really one to talk when it comes to this, as I have been in a marriage that set a bad example. The underlying issue for your problem may be the same as with mine.

I get it, Gymgirl, bad habits are very hard to break. Every day is a new start to improve.